Do not discourage people with your words, actions or motives. Do not hinder those willing to go beyond their limits to achieve their aims or goals. Do not be a distraction and a detractor to other people's well being, if you can't build don't destroy. If you can not motivate, don't deter, if you can't add value to their worth don't dis-value or undervalue them. Respect and value their efforts, time and zeal because it takes guts to do what others shied away from. It takes bravery to venture into the unknown, skills and creativity to bring into existence that which was once a dream.
There is nothing wrong in criticizing people as long as you do with wisely, constructively and with the right intention. The intention and motives of the critic matters a lot, some speak to sow the seed of discord, some speak just to mock and belittle others while some even wish you fail so that they can have a reason to laugh at you. But my question is, how can one be a good judge or a good critic, if he has no idea of the concept of what he is judging or criticizing, how can you say he will fail if you, yourself have never tried it before. Sometimes we might be forced to make do with the little we have and as true champs, we emerge victorious even with the little tools that we have. Don't judge us for having to use the little we have to confront the mountains before us, after all David went against Goliath with a rag and 5 pieces of stones. Yet he emerged victorious, the children of Israel had no boat, not even a canoe but God helped them cross the Red Sea, they pulled down the wall of Jericho with shouts alone. I am not saying that we should not be calculative or that we should not seek the necessary help that we need but as we all know there are things that will never come to us unless we make a move. Nothing works unless you make it work, no dream will become a reality unless you work on it and make it work out. Just because you think you have a good job doesn't make you a good judge, just because you have it going all good for you doesn't mean that you are any better than the next man striving to make ends meet. To be a good speaker you must first be a good listener, pulling people back or derailing them from their goals or aims is wickedness. But it is a pity how most people throw caution to the wind and just get on with hating like it is the right to do. Yeah! I heard you say "what if that person is moving on the wrong direction or what if they are doing things the wrong way?" Hmm, okay, if they are actually wrong then you must bring your communication skills to work, then you must find ways to relate to them without derailing them. Confronting the unknown can be dangerous, frustrating, exhausting, terrifying, enjoyable depending on the individual, elevating but also tasking. So to relate with someone facing such a challenge, you must first understand them or at least understand their circumstances. You might mean it for good but then, the air of uncertainty around them can generate unnecessary tension which might lead to misunderstanding. Know ye that a man's dream is his dreams, you have no clue how long he has being nurturing that dream, don't assume you know him just because you have known him for a couple of years. No matter how much you think you know a person, there is always a secret side of that person that you might never know. Speak when you have reason to and when you have reasonable things to say if not be still. For even a fool is thought to be wise when he is silent, I hope this will put all the negative committees to sleep and keep your hearts at peace. If you have a dream chase it now, whether you have the right tools or not, move for time waits for nobody. Klynch